that it takes at least two years to really know sonemoe, especially the older you are (more baggage) and preferably having lived with them for a good portion of that time.In K's case there were no red flags. I thought about his habit A LOT. I wanted to be very sure he did not have an addiction, for I didn't believe I had the strength to deal with an addict. I have high tolerance for a great deal, but my shaky sense of self could not have withstood sonemoe addicted to sex or porn which would instill too great a fear of cheating in me.Aside from his enjoyment of porn which for many women is so not a big deal, there were no negatives in this man.It was obvious he loved me deeply/passionately, was very in lust with me, took very good care of me, looked out for me, never went our for boy's night, always preferred to be with me, was never stingy or mean, never lost his temper, was patient and calm, considerate, and he was enormously affectionate.Of course all of these qualities still apply if not more so now, and I'm sure there are more.I was asked by a dear friend who at the time was acting as my therapist and mentor if I was willing to give all of that up for a silly habit he had that had never interfered.Of course the answer was no. Since porn viewing is SO prevalent among almost every male of every age, there was a very high probability that the next man I met would also be into it.So it was up to me to deal with my out of proportion reaction to what is to him an innocuous act.Does this answer your question?xxoo