PRPG I SO feel your pain and know how devastating this can be.Quite hosently this doesn't sound so good. With the proliferation of internet porn and access from practically anywhere, his phone as you mentioned, the temptation to check it out is high, most especially for younger men.And addiction to this stuff is a very real thing, not the majority of men by any means, but it is on the rise. This doesn't mean all is lost though.You don't mention your ages. This may or may not factor in here.My concern is the same as yours, why would he look up sites for hook ups paid or otherwise when there are more porn sites available than anything else on the net. An added thrill even though he doesn't follow through? Maybe.First of all you must, must, must stop rowing . There are ways to express your needs, wants, desires without taking over the show. I can help you with words when situations arise. But again you must stop rowing. This is his department. You may not get what you want when you want it, but if you can learn to develop patience and ways of expression that he can hear and absorb, then you will get what you want eventually.In a word it's emasculating if you have a masculine energy man. And not that you're driving him to look at these sites, but it could be a possible source to make him feel more masculine energy.Please, please don't take responsibility for his behavior, for it's not you, it is him, yet rowing for the two of you is never a great idea.Next you must take care of you. Put your focus on you, what makes you happy, feel good. See about work so that you can maintain your independence.And yes a power speech is certainly a good way to go.I'm the queen of power speeches, so if you would like to compose one and run it by me first, I would be happy to help you with this. Of course spoken would be better, but I do understand how traumatic this can feel. But please stay in the room when you do give it to him, and do ask him what he thinks or ask for his help with this that is bothering you so.There are other things I can suggest introducing into your relationship that may help divert his attention and energy, but let's start with this.You can post your draft here, or e-mail personally if that feels better. My e-mail address can be found under the about me tab to the right.It is a possibility that he is a toxic man with an addiction, but I'm not ready to give up on him just yet. There's much that you can do to turn this around if this is something other than, such as an outlet for stresses etc. or a habit that has gone too far for YOU.If nothing else, you will be more open and available, so if he is unable or unwilling to step up someone else will.xxoo

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